While the real list is much longer than this, here are the basic terms used in a typical Pro Domme Scenario. These are my flexibly translated interpretations of what these mean to me.
For more extensive explanations of these terms, just ask (messages cost $)!
During a session, one’s body and mind limits are tested and pushed, creating disorientation, potential internal stress and imbalance. After a session, a form of aftercare, nurturing techniques should be provided to prevent sub drop. Alleviating future issues from mental, physical and emotional strain. Depending on the intensity of the scene, aftercare can be minimal. NO MATTER WHAT TAKES PLACE, I highly encourage you to drink water, before, during, after. WATER IS ESSENTIALLY with any activity, especially BDSM activities!
Acronym for Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism, SADOMASOCHISM
Acts involving a person being physically restrained by tying or binding by rope, tape and or handcuffs. Total body restraint is also referred to as mummification but can be limited to a particular body part(s).
The receiver (Not the NFL term). The person receiving physical sensation from a top/dominant.
Oxygen restriction. Those that practice with others, understand the risks you are taking! For the extremists, You are never to do this alone, IDGAF how experienced you are or think you are, this can be playful yet potentially life-threatening.
LOCKED UP! A practice of self-control or being controlled, by yourself, a dom, or a partner. Orgasm denial, denying the opportunity of masturbation preventing access to, or stimulation of genitals. I prefer the physical versus the mental approach, chastity devices, keeps the subject honest, don’t worry, you can still pee.
Exactly WTF it sounds like.
Owned. May receive an actual physical collar, choker, necklace, etc. for symbolism and awareness that they are owned. The contract may be involved not limited to relationships.
Ownership. Dominant/Master accepting a sub as theirs.
Pain for pleasure, pleasure with pain, pleasure and pain.
A VERY SLIPPERY SLOPE! ALL parties MUST agree to this form of play. Nonconsensual Roleplay, for example, kidnapping and other more extreme options. MAKE SURE YOU SIGN OFF ON THIS AND MAKE SURE TO USE THE SAFE WORD IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO STOP!
To give permission, to permit, agree, allow without force and or threat. CONSENT IS MANDATORY! NO does NOT mean YES!
(BDSM) A verbal or written binding agreement establishing rules, roles, regulations and expectations. All contracts are different.
Dominance/Submission
A Dominant person. My oh my, how times have changed, Dom was used in the past in reference to the male dominant. Domme was and is still referred to as a female dominant distinguishing the two as if they were pronouns. You may notice now, the vast majority of Gen Z and Millennial generations, use either or nongendered terms dom/dominant.
Dominator – A Dominant person. In the past specifically used in the masculine sense, now it’s flexible to male and female or used as a non-gendered term.
The one who exercises control.
A dominant woman that practices BDSM.
Usually associated with femininity, many female dominants are using the nongendered terms dom/dominant.
The engulfing state of mind a dom enters during BDSM act/scene.
BDSM sanctuary play space.
Acronym (DM), Super Dope person, usually an active member of the community who supervises the interactions between participants at a dungeon, play party, and or BDSM events, always enforcing the house rules, acts as referee and our bouncer of sorts. These participants can be any role (switch, dom, sub) no matter their role, there is no act of service in this arena that is below them, occasionally setting up a scene in advance.
Extremist play, involves a risk of harm, mentally, physically or emotionally. Dangerous.
HUMILIATION and or for physical discomfort. If you don’t know what an enema is, I don’t know what to tell you.
Exquisite female dominant partner.
A strong, fixation, delight, desire, or unusual obsession with something.
Fuck you, Pay Me! A fetish of dominance and submission, where a submissive, finsub, Human ATM, pay pig, money slave, cash piggy, (there are at least 20 other terms) give gifts and money to a financial dominant.
Financial Dominant. Money mistress/master, findomme/findom, money dom/domme or cash master/mistress. Pretty dope receiving end position.
A dominant pissing on you, but you already knew that.
“Good pain” is a pain permitted and enjoyed, found pleasurable by the recipient.
Non-negotiable limits. HARD NO!
Tying and fastening wrists and ankles together behind your back.
The degrading feeling of being ashamed, embarrassed, or exposed. I can show you better than I can tell you.
Part of sensation play, dealing with impacts such as those from whips, riding crops, paddles, floggers, etc. [43]
Japanese style of tight patterned bondage.
Layers of levels you may or may not extend, participate in or pass. Make sure you know and establish your limits.
The most simplified definition is receiving pleasure from humiliation or pain.
A person that enjoys pain, finding it pleasurable.
Owner of slave/sub.
Temporary piercings are done with sterile needles of varying gauges, usually only for the duration of a scene. [57]
Your Mom! Just kidding… or maybe not. A person that loves receiving pain.
Something all “hetero” cis males pretend like they don’t enjoy.
Fun BDSM events, as long as you don’t invite sociopaths.
Pony cosplay/roleplay. It may or may not be My Little Pony-themed.
Professional Dominant… There’s a price!
Pup cosplay/roleplay.
Acronym for risk-aware consensual kink.
A person that finds pleasure from inflicting pain.
Making certain everything is based on safe activities, that all participants are of sufficiently sound mind to consent, and that all participants do consent.
A keyword, established before an activity begins, is used to stop all that is taking place.
The pleasure from receiving or inflicting pain or humiliation, not limited to giving but also receiving. In the privacy of your own home, especially, there’s nothing wrong with you Switching it up every now and then (wink emoji).
The setting and participation of a BDSM activity(s).
In BDSM, is a person submits consensually, giving up total control of one or more aspects of their life to another.
Limits you are apprehensive about.
Seriously? You know what that is …
Aliments experienced by a submissive after BDSM play or session, especially when aftercare was not provided.
Person in a subservient role who submits to dominant.
A eutrophic state of mind, a high. Intoxicating mental escape subs experience in BDSM acts.
A person that can alternate between dominant and submissive roles.
24/7 Male-dominated (Husband/Father) household. I don’t agree with this practice and use this phrase for Female Led and Male Led relationships.
More to come… 😊
The Giver (not necessarily in the kind and generous way we immediately associate with when we hear “Giver”. The person performing the action.
Surrounding all rights, giving complete control to the dominant or owner, you are now their property.
TEACHING(S). Everyone has their own different style and structure. I love teaching and training!
Basic bitches that drink pumpkin spice lattes (barf). Someone who is Conventional/boring, some may say “normal”, whatever that means. Zero-interest or experience in any alternative or out of the ordinary. Part of the cattle.
Gentle and light play, at the beginning of a BDSM scene, preparing sub/slave/bottom for subspace mindset. Like a really good stretch before a vigorous workout.